I've only ever fallen out with a girlfriend once. I spoke up. Maybe I could have been more diplomatic: I'm sure I could have been. I'm such an empath, hurting people is not in my toolbox. It's actually the last thing I ever want to do, yet I know I hurt her. Just as she hurt me. It was bad all around. I felt awful for a long time about the whole exchange. I wanted to fix things for the longest time, but that was the old "please don't hate me" me. I kept thinking "do you really want to be friends with this person?"... and when I stopped to listen to my inner voice, I kept hearing "no". I love her as a soul. I want the best for her. I want her to have a happy life... but she didn't bring out the best in me, and apparently, I didn't do her any favours either. So I listened. It was the beginning of facing up to my own feelings. It was hard, but guess what? I didn't melt into a puddle. I took responsibility, stood up, and it got messy... what can I say, it did. I lost a friend, but I gained a little more of the real me.
Hey, what would happen if today you decided to express yourself... to use your own voice? No, really. What's the worst that could happen? What good could possibly come from suppressing your own feelings? Even if your voice quivers, be brave and speak your truth! It may close some doors, but you can be sure it will open others... better ones... ones that matter. You'll feel light, free and genuine. It's pretty powerful.
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