People often ask me "how did you do it?"... "weren't you scared that it wouldn't work out?". Or, they simply sigh with deep longing and tell me "wow, you're living the dream: I wish I could do that."
Well, I'll tell you something... there were no wands or pixie dust involved. We were not given any special powers, either. We did our due diligence, we researched as much as possible, and we weighed the pros and cons. And it looked a lot like this:
We felt excited.
Then we resisted.
We felt energized.
Then we felt drained.
We felt rich.
Then we felt poor.
We felt at peace.
Then we felt confused.
We felt empowered.
Then we felt scared... (shitless)
Then, we took a step forward. Then another. And another. We simply had to activate. Dreaming just isn't enough, y'know?
So we stepped into our fear. It felt REALLY uncomfortable much of the time and more often than not I wondered what the heck we were doing. All I knew was that staying where I was, wasn't an option. I could feel my soul wither (which is an impossibility, I know, but the ache it produces is very real nonetheless). Fear is also just as real, but it rarely serves growth. I'm learning that in spades!
In the last two years, Kevin and I have tried a bunch of new things... things we never dreamed we'd ever do. I'm not saying we mastered these things, but even just dabbling and learning to problem solve has expanded the way we think. Some of the things we'd never done before but learned:
• how to start a business from scratch in the remote mountains of Costa Rica
• how to be B&B hosts
• how to manage the aqueduct system for the ponds
• how to clean the ponds
• how to care for trout
• how to fish, gut, clean and cook trout
• how to garden organically (not as easy as one thinks and we're still learning!)
• how to mend fences
• how to speak Spanish (enough to communicate)
• how to rebuild an ATV from fire damage
• how to use a machete
• how to use the moon cycle in planting and harvesting
• how to take care of chickens and their eggs properly
• how to use coconut oil for all kinds of things!
• how to build a website (and use Mail Chimp to create an Opt-In box... sweet!)
• how to network within our community
• how to market ourselves online
• how to sort out banking and immigration requirements
• how to drive in San Jose, where the driving culture is very different to that of Canada
These are just the tactical aspects of our learning. Accumulation of knowledge, so to speak. I'm sure there's a lot more stuff that I'm missing, but the point is that we had to learn these things. And we had to be open to failing (which only means not getting it quite right the first time, nothing more).
I've learned so much about myself, at a soul level, as well:
• I wrote my first book... a dream come true
• I discovered what gratitude really means. I'm spiritual, but not religious and I used to think saying "Grace" was a religious practice. While living here, I've realized how important to see the grace in all things. And to be grateful... oh so grateful
• Connecting with nature is healing, more so than I could have ever imagined
• I've learned to breathe and trust... in the Universe and in myself
• My story is worth sharing and by sharing my truth I have the privilege of serving others
• Following my tug is the best action I can take... every time
Moving to a foreign country isn't for everyone and I would never suggest it's the only way to live your dream. I am saying that while you are looking outward and seeing other people accomplishing certain goals and wishing you could be like them, if you look closely, you'll soon see that they are no more special than you. Or better yet, you are just as special as they are. The only thing that you are required to do is check in with your own tug, put one foot in front of the other, and course correct when you feel off course.
Nothing is set in stone, that's the beauty of it all. You can change your mind. You can decide to move in a different direction. Now... tell me, what do you dream about... what's your bliss and what's stopping you from reaching it?